THE EFFECT OF EMOTIONAL INCOMPETENCE IN OUR SOCIETY

By Ifeoluwa Olorunnisola Josephine

As our society evolves, we are becoming more educated and smarter, yet something fundamental to social relations has been lost.

A person who is told, for instance, that he should learn a new programming Language, usually will become less upset and defensive than if he is told that he should learn how to better control his temper or become a better listener.

The prospect of needing to develop greater emotional competence is a bitter pill for many to swallow because emotional learning often involves ways of thinking and acting that are more central to a person’s identity.

Emotional incompetence often results from habits deeply learned early in life. These automatic habits are set in place as a normal part of living as experience shapes the brain. As people acquire their habitual repertoire of thoughts, feelings, and actions, the neural connections that support these are strengthened, becoming dominant pathways for nerve impulses. Connections that are unused become weakened, while those that people use over and overgrow increasingly strong. When these habits have been so heavily learned, the underlying neural circuitry becomes the brain’s default option at any moment – what a person does automatically and spontaneously, often with little awareness of choosing to do so. Thus, the need for emotional intelligence (EI).

Emotional intelligence

EI is the capability of an individual to recognize their own emotions and those of others, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately, use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior and manage or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one’s goal(s).

Emotional intelligence(EI) forms the juncture of which cognition and emotion meet, it facilitates our capacity for resilience, motivation, empathy, reasoning, stress management, communication and our ability to read and navigate a plethora of social situations and conflicts.

Empathy, which enhances effective social relations, is typically associated with Emotional intelligence(EI) because it relates to an individual connecting their personal experiences with that of others. This helps an individual to manage their feelings without allowing it to swap them, or demoralize their motivation when responding to people or life issues.
In conclusion, in building a well-balanced life, Emotional intelligence is non-negotiable. I educate individual to communicate better, reduce anxiety and stress, defuse conflicts, improve relationships, empathize with others and effectively overcome life’s challenges.

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